I'm happy to see people who think like me, I thought I'm all alone in this , I'm a 30 years old man but not married cause I don't want to have children , I think I suffered a lot in this world and I can't do it to another person , Maybe I should do vazectomy to make sure, but I really don't want to bring any other innocent soul to this world and watch him suffering , nobody can say he/she totally enjoying the life, suffering comes to you one way or another , even if you live a happy life at the end you will die with pain, no I can't do that to another human being , I don't want to bring him/her to this cruel world. ", because I think it's really selfish of them to bring kids just to be able to love someone. And your arguments against are (no personal offense, really) not rally convincing at all. I'd like to go out and NOT see kids everywhere I go. I have two kids and i love them for bringing them to the world. And here's a little anecdote for you, I recently watched them and they had a complete meltdown. The thought terrified me. It is an awful statements to say such a thing! Answer: In today's overpopulation issues, it is always good to encourage those who want children to adopt and take care of those who are waiting to be with a family. Like for me, I am a woman, and I am black, and many humans of the world basking in their myopia hate me because of my hue, which was unsettling but now to my amusement since I rent space in their my minds. Then in my late 30's I met a new man - he was in the Army. Very early in my teaching career (early 80's), I had an elderly lunchroom worker noticed that I did not have children after my fourth year of marriage. It's an economical setting that makes sure that families are impoverished, children are raised by the tv, parents are stressed and alienated, and that the people who actually have free time to make questions and be critical and politically active are the ones that leave no children behind. As if these people never thought of adding something great to the world themselves. Guys your so right with everything your saying and all your opinions make total sense to me and i also have a very similar opinion too but i wont really talk abot details now because i dont have time. In fact, you’ll probably frequently regret it. Lucky you you cute little baby! When I ask people of why they are interested I get the same answers as this article. I think your worst argument is the it's life thing, sorry this one sounds really stupid, just like those who want to force a child or marrige on you. The relationship soured when he came back from a deployment and he had totally changed. Everyone thinks you NEED to have a child but really? We need to all be 2-3 kids to maintain a stable population. The ad-hominen arguments they hide their hurt pride behind are as vapid as the supposed moral high ground they stand on. Everyone wants to hang around a girl with a positive attitude, even the guys. Life without kids is BORING! As a woman who doesn't desire to have children, there are things that I would like you to know about me and other child-free women. To release the contempt and disdain for your mate/significant other. DON'T BE AFRAID. But in America,  where 54%  of couples would prefer a male child over a female one, the preference has nothing to do with pragmatism. The singer is male, the genre is rock iirc. My parents don't know how much I suffer, but I would know perfectly well. Life will take you on an emotional roller-coaster and then your just reward at the end will be you get sick and die. But it’s a hell of an experience, and if you consider that you want to be brave and adventurous, don’t go on a canoe down the Orinoco, bin the condoms and starting stencilling the spare room with unicorns instead. All Information Found on NewParent.com is Intended for Informational and Educational Purposes Only. As a previous teen foster child I have some insight into what we can do to help. 4. Here you're saying that you never wanted children but when suddenly you got your child *you* love her so much. I wish that I would have met my husband back in my 20s, things would have been so much different now. Having children means you can stop trying to be Simone de Beauvoir and Jean Paul Sartre and get on with the real meaning of life – wiping excrement from children’s bottoms. Forcing life onto another living being (i.e., a child) *should* be the hardest decision a person can make. I agree, to a point. To me it makes perfect sense that your life is basically over once you have a kid, I just don't understand what people don't understand about this. Go figure. Many people grow up with parents who have serious flaws and so they decide that when they become parents they will not make the same mistakes. Overpopulation: the real fact is that earth is not overpopulated as they describe. This includes people you're not that keen to spend time around––you can still be civil toward them. I'm not alone—here are some of the most common reasons why people aren't able to start their family when they'd like and how to handle each situation. This website uses cookies to improve your experience. But to have built a society in wich only the people who decide to not have kids get to purse their interests, have valuable experiences and etc, is BONKERS. There are only negative side effects. :)". Recently I have thought of perhaps bringing a child or adopting one but for different reasons. While I cannot speak to the issue of over population because I have enough research other than what is said in the media. There are over 7 billion people in this world STOP breeding like cockroaches! We would not be able to tell you why at all. I'm a little bit in between but I'd say more girly, but why do all girls want to be tom boys all of a sudden? By Michael Jung Aug 29, 2020. Thankful for my decision? 2. I am 22 and I know that I'm not going to create any life on this pointless earth. Maybe you should pass on that one. Kind of like how we are completely dependent on God, the Father. Its really annoying I haven't kissed a boy yet but everyone keeps asking me did I. I say yes on holidays but I'm lying its really annoying me that I have to lie all the time. This is the result of a terrible set of economic decisions. I really want to understand. If your thinking having a baby is useless look at your self you are a child to your mother and father that means your calling yourself useless. Women excel in education, the most crucial factor in tomorrow’s workforce; we are 56% of undergraduates in the U.S. and approaching parity in China and India. When the child grows up, he/she is expected to be indebted to the parent forever because she struggled to survive. Having children is not my cup of tea. Just been reading all the comments. What isn’t so often mentioned is that they are very funny. Found this post trying to wrack my brain for an answer as to why people choose to have kids. It makes you wonder what it is about you that not just him or the next guy, but all of them, love but cannot seem to keep. Sadly (or not), humans, even with our super brains, our complex social structure and all cultural evolution, are not shielded from this, we too are absolutely selfish by nature. On the other hand, beauty and brains is VERY admirable and attractive, and people will look up to … I'm glad it worked out for you, and I'm glad you're making the best of the situation, but that has nothing to do with wanting or not wanting to have kids, and with whether or not people should. I actually read a study about couples with children were unhappier compared to couples without children. I say it is a choice but often time the people that have the most kids tend to be those who can't feed them. I'm entirely happy with my little princess and I would never ever want it to be different. According to work done by the British Psychological Association, having children dramatically increases unhappiness. This biological imperative and drive are strong in many people, who feel the need to have and raise children. 3. Yes, that's a sombre thought and sounds really pessimistic ...but think about it ... Its only point number ten I consider reasonable not to just have children just because they want children. In the 50’s, Marlon Brando and James Dean brought a whole new level of being a bad boy to the big screen in movies like A Streetcar Named Desire and Rebel Without a Cause and women simply couldn’t handle the “emotions” and “feelings” coming up as they watched. People eally don't think about how much you have to give up when aving a child. People in general are selfish and don't put much thought into the quality of life they can afford an innocent child who didn't ask to be here. What I would say is to help who is already here. What I tell them is a lot like the paragraph above. Let's make sure to point out that having to opt-out of parenthood to have the possibility of having free time and savings is a dilemma that capitalism invented. Here's why becoming your own boss has become a national obsession. Why I Want My Sons To See Me Naked I've never refrained from changing clothes in front of them, or leaving the door open when I shower, or nursing babies without a cover. Just like some people do not want to get married. I never understood the idea that not having kids is selfish, especially for a woman. It is their birth that brings all their needs and desires, and then if we manage to satisfy these (which we won't), we think we are offering them something. In a country in which people only want boys every family continues to have children until they have a boy. It stops you getting old and bitter like all the childless people I know. I will say that I have witnessed some lousy parenting in this area though. My wife wants kids but she doesn't know why. Paul Ehrlich’s prognostications layed out in his manifesto, Population Bomb, were laughably wrong. This is a really resonating list. I am 60. My first language is Portuguese, so .. yeah. Boys seem to have a instinct for danger that makes them want to climb on, manipulate, and explore everything they're not supposed to be near, … Also, I feel that may be this child could contribute to the society and make it a better place because no matter how hard I tried, I feel that I failed at it. It takes strength and it takes a little bit of faith. I can touch lives in other ways without procreating. I am happy to help her learn about the world around her. Why everyone wants a girl News that Victoria Beckham is having a girl after three boys must fill her with joy, says Lucy Cavendish. I don't see the appeal of the messy infant stage, but to some people not having a veiny, 7lb wrinkly grandpa for a year or two is a deal breaker. Just short of smug. Thanks for reading. Why is that choosing to NOT have something that I don't already have is considered selfish? Cramping during pregnancy can occur for a number of reasons. As I read the comments, I thought about my daughter currently sleeping in her crib. Not too scary. Family & Relationships. By Rachel Leishman Dec 28th, 2020, 2:06 pm . Body Language: If he displays open body language around you and leans in when talking with you, that is a sign that he is into you. Sometimes you have to cut connections with some people or even get over an addiction fore having kids. Something forced upon someone without their concent is not a gift. Think about the types of guys these movies portray: chronically unmotivated, sexually clumsy, socially inept, economically immobile, and, above all, childish. I cannot judge what the author thinks or believes but I can say that I am glad that they said Something. Do all teens today need a drivers license at all? Here are some of the reasons why a person walks away from a parent or stops including parents in their life. The Information Provided on This Website is Not Intended to Be a Replacement or Substitute for Professional Medical Advice. Thanks. One big reason, I was poor as a box of rocks and was damn near homeless for quite a few years. You miss work days, don’t dump your nasty little critters on your parents lap, realize the rest of us don’t have to find your Small savages cute. The dynamics of society have changed since the 50's,in so many ways yet some still chase the Ozzie and Harriet lifestyle which Never existed in the first place. I have no children and it has been the best decision ever. It feels like the wrong people give birth to children and pass on very shallow views to them. These people may want to relive the silly and fun parts of their childhood with their child. 4 min read. Many people love the idea of getting to create and raise a child, one that they can share their love with. Here you go mom, you can have your kids back now. If you don't know anything about the Bible, you should research it a bit before reading. But I consider myself lucky now. Boys are endemic in my husband’s family and so everyone assured me that I would have a boy. Whether it be by choice or by circumstances, remember that not everyone is lucky and blessed, whether they have kids or not. For many couples, this type of economic commitment is not feasible and having a child would put a lot of stress on the parents to provide economically for the child. Sometimes I think what a burden it would have been financially but life is fine without them besides future generations will be subjected to the devastation of climate change. I mean, a firefighter that sacrifices himself to save a group of kids in a fire, a woman who takes care of abandoned animals, or a group of people who donate goods after a natural disaster... well that's all very praiseworthy, but not really selfless nonetheless. In the last 10 years, there has been an extraordinary increase in teenagers seeking to transition from female to male. Perhaps you’re concerned about having a boy if you only had sisters growing up. I do not care easily for people. I would have preferred not to have been born. I am in my late 20s, and since age 14, I knew that having children was neither here nor there for me. Humans are complex things, and they will pass for difficult moments where tears will drop. This isn't Youtube country. So before someone is so quick to judge why someone does not have kids, each of us has a past that contributes to that. Posted Oct 31, 2016 The only person who thinks other wise is my husband (I think it's because he secretly wants a girl) and I feel like its still 50/50. What is the proportion of boys to girls in the country? I spent most of my life raising my parents. Things could have been different yes! The thing is, most women don't realize that our borderline mania isn't very complicated: we simply like boobs — a lot. Besides, taking care of your own well being is important in any adult, and condemning all selfish behavior as evil is not only misguided but unhealthy. I am now a professional folk dancer in the DC area and I dance with women half my age and that have children. Developed countries have problems with people having 1-2 kids. I am fortunate that I never had baby fever or an intense desire or plan to have a family. With the costs of childcare factored in and the growing need for both parents to work full time, it puts even more stress on the parents to find a way to make everything work. But the majority will naturally want to. You give birth to a kid but do any of you say this is a miserable world where no one is happy (just look at our history). The study found that the prime reason mums wanted daughters was because women felt they would “bond and understand” them better. And then I think about doing that for somebody. EVERY SINGLE person who has seen me since I've been pregnant has said that we are having a boy. I have seen others with children that are very happy and I know people with children that are miserable. What's behind it—and has the NHS been too quick to find a solution? but I cannot find a decent reason why I would want to - except that I would love to have a kid with my wife and that it would make her happy. There's over 7 billion of us, so eventually people need to calm down on the childbirth a bit. I am happy reading the same book 12 times in a row because she likes to laugh at all the characters. They think she is hating on people having kids and that her outlook is bleak. Developing countries have problems with people having 10 kids. Phew! And love is both a selfish and generous thing. And then there's the ultimate fallacy of 'imparting wisdom.' Any boy who wants you because you’re pretending to be someone else, doesn’t actually want YOU. which runs contrary to the assumption that experiencing life is a privileged that no consciousness would refuse. Backwater sites like this don't have an edit option in the comments. As I got a bit older - I was involved in a high school sweetheart relationship and I just knew he was the one and we would have kids together. Considerable debate surrounds whether or not parents should give kids chores. Directed by Jason Todd Ipson. But I’m not convinced. NOT FATHER MATERIAL THERE - and I am glad that I was on the pill. Oh yes! Also, western civilizations are extremely wasteful and having kids puts a huge stress on the Earth's resources. The thing that always struck me as weird about this is that 9 out of 10 of these reasons are all ego based. Or maybe having a girl meant having the same difficult mother-daughter dynamic you had growing up. Kids are loud, abnoxious, rude, selfish, bitchy, whiny, they break everything and then lie about it, I dont get why people are saying they make you a " better " person, are you saying that people who don't have or want kids are not good enough? So your girlfriend really wants a baby or your husband keeps pointing out the tiny clothes hanging in storefronts while you're wondering why you should have kids at all. Life is just life. Yes, I know that’s a big fat “duh” for many of you, but I’m a recovering knucklehead with minimal relapses, so please humor me. I am Glad so many shared their minds on the topics of not wanting, wanting, having, and giving. And, detail: I still have to wait for at least 10 years before I met them. Personally, however, I'm perhaps far more extreme in my decision to remain child-free. You're not making children for the children, you're making them for themselves. They abused and neglected me my whole life, I've spent most of my life in poverty, battling hereditary conditions. So if you want to conceive a boy, you should have sex close to ovulation so they’ll beat the X chromosomes to the egg, use a rear-entry position for deeper sperm deposit, and try to ensure the woman orgasms, which will help those Y-carrying sperm get there even faster. Welcome to the Internet. This was a Head Start program filled with unwanted and neglected children. There is a lot of pressure on couples to have children, and this has been ingrained in society since the very beginning of time. Not everyone wants kids and then some actually do want to be parents. Unless you are renowned throughout the world as a creative genius or hero, I doubt you have any more wisdom than the next guy, and probably shouldn't be spoon-feeding it to the next generation. THEN I ASKED WHY WHEN KIDS GET TO 15 ,WE CANT WAIT TO GET RID OF THEM AND HOPE THEY PAY THEIR COLLGE AND GET A JOB?? If you’ve followed my blog closely, you’ll remember that our first pregnancy didn’t end well, and it was pretty devastating for us. I do not know if this is a selfish wish of mine, I want to have this little life to fully love and give myself entirely for, but I can not really care. Joining the Legion of Super-Heroes can be hard, but the secret of their auditions mean everybody wants to take a shot. The study found that the prime reason mums wanted daughters was because women felt they would “bond and understand” them better. Meaning of Life: Earth is a life giver and a life taker. I never wanted children. You graduate - and if you do not go to college, you get married and have kids. I feel like tom boys used to be frowned open now it's the opposite? 45-50 years old. Perhaps you’re concerned about having a boy if you only had sisters growing up. According to a study done by Lund University in Sweden, not having a kid can save “an average of 58.6 tonnes of CO2-equivalent emissions per year”. People are so cruel and judgmental. Life is too short to worry about things in the past - though I have learned a great deal from it. THIS IS NOT NORMAL. On the point of the world not being the nicest place, the Earth is beautiful but humans aren't so beautiful, and that's the truth. The more likely truth is that we are parasites driven to multiply until this planet and its beauty is totally void of everything. I usually meet people who I feel should not have kids because they are either very unintelligent or narrow minded. If she refuses, they threaten to call CPS because his molestation, er, I mean, vaginal and breast exams are "good for the baby". She gains weight, ages, and is constantly sick for nine months. So, basically: I'm going to have a baby because I love them. Hi everyone, I'm looking for a song, it was pretty popular, so I hope someone will recognize it. Sexual exploitation, violence and wage discrimination are realities I’ve had to face through my own experience and the experience of those close to me, but I’m still so proud to bring a girl into this world. When a farmer is sick, food production gets delayed; a road construction falls ill, road building will have one less worker to finish the job; when a husband beats his wife or children (and vice versa), their situation affects the neighbors and friends. He was wonderful (at the time) - I thought to myself, wow - this is the guy that I want to marry and start a family with!!!! Whatever the heck we like!!! We become stressed, tired, both emotionally and physically. I'm not good with feelings. This is just mine, for example haha, I mean no offense, I just thought it would be an enriching take on this topic. This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional. I want to count the cost before building my tower, even before laying the foundation, I just dont have a decent logical answer and maybe there isn't one anyway. I am an uncle, I'm not sure if I personally want kids or not. Using your position as parent to force a kid into loving you is not love no matter how you dress it up. For people who don't want kids, they choose not to because that's the experience they want for themselves. Of course, there is no guarantee that my child will turn out to be a non-judgemental human being or even become this very selfish human being. Then there are the parents that have everything right. She is not a useless mistake. Ask questions and answer them in your unborn child's perspective and not in yours. Why don't some teenagers want to drive yet? I have never been happy, and considering my age, I doubt I ever will be. It's a very personal decision and is not for everyone. And what is so bad about having children to they can take care of you when you become old? Having a child born with these issues may be something that potential parents do not want to deal with. Just deal with what you already have on this doomed planet. How can you help your teen get their license? Not to mention other reasons. Because they wanted a toy. Maybe foster to adopt, but i will always fear my illness returning, and I know foster children need extra attention and love. All of the population explosion that is happening is happening in places like Africa and the middle east. “Everybody Gets High” is a song about a young boy struggling with addiction who turned to alcohol and drugs to escape the pain of feeling isolated from friends and family.. When it comes to breeding one's own, however, it affects, not only other people's lives but everything on the planet (environment, wildlife, non-human animals, etc.) In this article, I will go over some of the ways that having children can positively impact your life, and I will also go over some of the ways that having children can negatively impact your life. I have met both the vile and the good, and I will conclude that the world is not the easiest place to be in, and this has always been the case since we advance. So, what I really wanted to say with all this, just in case it isn't implied by now, is that whatever reasons you have are as valid and selfish as the ones you have so harshly criticized. Why does everyone want to know if you kissed a boy yet? Orphanages are not "The Baby Store." Women Have Always Loved Bad Boys. Choosing not to have children is technically selfish since you're focusing on your own needs, but to call it selfish invalidates the consideration put into the decision. We have so much to deal with. Everyone says I'm having a boy, why is this? It was wonderful. Even ugly ones are thought beautiful by their parents. Enjoy your stay. See Einstein, Hawkings and other. Do you have a late period, but a negative pregnancy test result? I had just turned 40 and I was barely getting by. Question: Are two children expensive for parents? Maybe you get attached to baby Jake but one day he's adopted and you never see him again? OK, I can’t resist it anyway. As one York estate agent said to me last week, people in London now talk about “moving to Yorkshire” with a fervour once reserved only for the Cotswolds, say, or posh Devon. I would like to bring a child and teach them about acceptance. In fact, many non-parents report they live healthier lifestyles than parents. ... (including a powerful media mogul, an opportunistic and bombastic cable-news host, and a young boy… That being said I won't resort to blasting off on anonymous others with different viewpoints than my own. helpful information delivered to your inbox for free. We have kids to satisfy our own desires. Afterwards, I've seen parents attach words to their young children like "ungrateful" and refer constantly their own 'sacrifices.'. Some posts here were insightful and some were just opinion s. Just how discussion goes. Question: For what reason does someone take on other people's issues while NOT overextending the earth? According to “The Case for Girls” published in an recent issue of Fast Company, there is a worldwide preference for boys. At 32 I'm asking myself why do I want kids? Or maybe having a girl meant having the same difficult mother-daughter dynamic you had growing up. 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